why mothers are the dumping grounds for emotions and fathers are the fun figures??
Disclaimer-
The most of the content of this writing is not my personal experience. It is based on my personal thoughts and observations from the surrounding happenings.
Does a mother shd feel happy n proud that her child feels like talking to her in turbulent times and the same child looks forward to his father to create best moments of his life?? How does a mother actually feel abt it??
Why does it happen so?
In majority of families this is the scenario barring the few .
How does it happen? What kind of mother one shd become to achieve this? Is it necessary to be both for a mother? Is it possible?
Too many questions...
Mothering is overrated in the sense that mothers themselves feel great ABT sacrificing their individuality, their me time,career..(.list is endless)right from birth of the child to never ending limit. To sm extent it is certainly required but only to sm extent and beyond that v all r actually unknowingly get trapped in societal norms n demands.
This whole vicious cycle makes mothers a serious entity and robs off her fun quotient.
When she realises this loss , it becomes a great deal to gather the scattered pieces of her own being and further an uphill task to become her original self which she has completely forgotten .
This means to a psbl extent mothering shd b a thoroughly planned affair with very clear and chalked out limits to which a mother is willing to adjust and compromise on herself.
Is it practically feasible??
The practicality of this aspect hugely demands the role of family especially the husband.
Husband n wife together raise a child then why a wife shd only bear the brunt. The mother definitely owes more responsibility towards the child but certainly a husband ,if empathetic ,can certainly create a great balance.
Husband has to just keep her cup half filled so that she cn manage her breathing space and cn gv some happy energy back to the family and the child .
Small little attentions can leap big results like-
Before a mother starts feeling sad, cranky, lost, ignored...she shd b sent for sm relaxation tm may b a nice head massage, a grooming session, or an hour of some activity like nature walk or sm breathing in fresh air,a peaceful meal , sometimes a junk food evng with friends or husband without the child, sm quiet tm free of mundane jobs once in a week or may b on daily basis, acknowledging her efforts n sacrifices honestly by complimenting her or writing a loving note for appreciating her work balancing skills....the list is infinite.... varies from person to person , family to family.
The crux is a little support from spouse can turn this camel ride into a joy ride!!!!
